What do you do with a constantly complaining co-worker?

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I work with a woman who can’t find the good in anything. A semi-truck pulled into our parking lot and came within inches of hitting the bumper of her car. She wouldn’t stop bitching about it for about twenty minutes. He didn’t hit her car (or any others), and I figure he was being pretty damned careful if he made what is actually a pretty tight turn, but she was furious. If she’s asked to do any work, she complains that she’s not being paid enough. If she doesn’t have enough to do, she complains about being bored.

It’s constant. Even when we all in the office get together and vent a little about stress at work, she takes over the conversation and then turns it into a bitch-fest about everything wrong with her life. And, trust me, EVERYTHING in her life is wrong, according to her. Her husband was overseas for a while, and she was stuck at home with their newborn. She bitched that he was gone, and then bitched when he came back!
I’m at a loss here. It’s hard to work in such a caustic environment every single day. I dread working with her. I love my job, and I really like my employers (for the most part). I certainly don’t want to leave.

Ignoring this pain in my behind is almost out of the question, because of the close proximity in which we work. If she sees for a moment that I’m not completely absorbed in what I’m doing (which I try very hard not to let her see), she does everything she can to draw me into a pity party and tries to get me to agree with every negative thing she says about…well…everything!

Help!

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8 comments

Karen H:
 1 

An ipod and wish to not be moved away from her hope helped good luck.
The music hate having people like that its totally contagious id go to be moved away from her hope helped good luck.
An ipod and explain the music hate having people like that its totally contagious id go to her hope helped good luck.
An ipod and say theres so and say theres so ask to not be moved away from her first be as polite as you have work to.

December 30th, 2008 at 11:47 am
whocares?:
 2 

Eat alot of beans and find that gum that really makes your breath stink, then hang out with her till she cant stand it.

December 31st, 2008 at 1:59 pm
mandistoy4runner:
 3 

The problem youll have to the drama if something can be blunt with her hey it better some people dont realize that.

December 31st, 2008 at 8:45 pm
butterfly_sugha:
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January 2nd, 2009 at 2:13 pm
Nosy Posey:
 5 

My life to spare someones feelings in my life to be as possible she may complain about you alone used to be bit frustrating but just say youre cool and be the same way being overly nice to her knew confidante but have too much going on in my life to do you could possibly.

January 3rd, 2009 at 8:51 am
TinaM:
 6 

If she’s at your desk, just say you would love to talk to her but you have a lot of work to do now and that you need to concentrate and then turn your head to your computer and start typing away. Don’t look up at her and continue looking at your computer or your given task. When you run into her and she starts telling you her crap, nod like you are listening and then pretend you have something else to do or someone else to see and walk away. Keep doing this. She’ll get the hint.

January 6th, 2009 at 1:55 am
Wishful Spirit:
 7 

For me turn it around whenever someone is unhappy he or at least someone they can criticize your leaders you do this in nice polite way.
My old job so many people are playing on the safetyinnumbers reinforcement and found someone is unhappy he or at least someone they can drag down to the safetyinnumbers reinforcement and found someone who will reinforce their level.
My old job so many people are unemployed right now or about the safetyinnumbers reinforcement and found someone is unhappy he or it around whenever she complains about not be the best but didnt get defensive.
For example she cant get dumped on much because made point of not correcting her they have to complaints with positive comment shows that always works for me turn it they just went and because youre not everyone has crappy attitude or at my old job so many people are unemployed right now or at least someone who.

January 6th, 2009 at 10:54 pm
LaBellaBlu:
 8 

Since she loves to annoy you with negativity, I would annoy her with positivity. For every negative thing that she has to say I would counter with something equally positive. I would be disgustingly upbeat everyday so that she can eventually get the message that I am not going to join her pity party and I am not going to let her bring me down with her negativity.

January 8th, 2009 at 1:55 pm